I thought it was time to talk to someone about the body issues that I have acquired over the years. Lucky for you, you are the person that I have decided to share some of this baggage with. Buckle up, because this is probably going to be a lot.
Yes, guys can have body issues too. Especially in the gay community, it’s not very accepting unless you have muscles and a six-pack. Like, it seems like in order to find a date or a boyfriend, you must have those. If you don’t look like that or have those, then you are kind of treated like you aren’t good enough. As someone who can’t seem to get anywhere and has anxiety, you start to wonder if it’s the way you look. I guess you can say that being in a community where role models have abs and are super hot really make your insecurities start to come more to the surface.
I’ve always really had body issues. Whether it was the fact that I had a little more in the stomach area, my face, or even when it came to my hair. Body issues have constantly played a role in my life. It really never stopped me from trying new things but it still impacted my life.
Like I don’t like pictures taken of me. If you really look at my Instagram, there’s a link down below, there really isn’t a picture of me. I don’t post a picture unless I think I look good in it, which is hardly any of them. To me, I thought I looked bad. It could be my face, my hair, or even just because I have acne like everyone else in the world. It also doesn’t help that I look younger than my age. Do you know how many times people refused to even get to know me because they thought I was a high school student looking to “have a sexual awakening?” Yeah, it still happens. You try to not to take it personally but it’s really hard not to.
Frankly, I’m tired of having these body issues. I started to work out more. The more fit I get, the more comfortable I am with my body. I made these changes for me and not because I want a boy to like me. I’m still not there to where I would like to be but I’m so far happy with how far I have come.
I think we need to stop comparing ourselves to other and holding ourselves to what we believe others want. We need to just be ourselves and love ourselves for us. Don’t change because you want to get a relationship. Change because you want to better yourself. Everyone has body issues. Just don’t let them control your life or you will regret it. I didn’t let it control mine.
P.S. Since we are now dating, make sure you follow me on Twitter and Instagram. I’m like the social media mogul version of Tinkerbell. Just instead of people believing I exist, I need those follows to live